How I Met My Husband

You can’t really choose how you fall in love with someone. It’s a funny story on how I met my husband. I met him at prom while I was on a date with his best friend. Jeffrey just so happened to be in our prom date group. He was also my best friend’s neighbor. He looked so good, but I couldn’t say anything because I was on a date with his best friend.

After some time, his best friend and I dated (I think I was settling), and Jeffrey came out with us and hung out as well as my brothers. We all went skating, out to eat, and to church. I really liked that Jeffrey took an interest in bonding with my brothers, was incredibly social, and hilarious. One day, I was driving my two brothers to Texarkana, and they said “Let’s stop by and say hi to Jeffrey.” And so we went to his job to drop by, and when we went in I remember seeing him a different way as soon as we walked in. His smile made me have butterflies and I remember just pure happiness. He looked so handsome and had the sweetest voice. Who knew love could be so strong in an instant? My heart was racing and I asked my brother Alex when we got in the car “Do you think Jeffrey and I would be good together?” This was honestly a surprise to me and I didn’t realize that I’ve been getting closer to him the entire time of our friendship.

I’ve always been a shy person, so having a super outgoing man was what I had always wanted. I thought brown eyes were incredibly gorgeous also. I wanted someone who was Godly, who understood me, was a sweetheart, and who loved me for me. Also, I couldn’t cook at the time, and really thought it was amazing he could cook really well. Something that made him stand out was that he had charm, actually listened to me, sense of humor, super handsome, and had a manly beard. I did not tell him about how I felt for a while in case he didn’t feel the same way.

We planned to hang out one day, which was a date that I didn’t know, and we went to Chili’s, to the movies, and to a nice romantic walk at Bringle Park. He offered to give me his jacket, while we looked at the water, and as he was giving me his jacket I thought he was going for a kiss. He wasn’t but I got super nervous anyway thinking he was. It was special being there with him. He gave me a piggy back ride on the walk to the truck because it was muddy and I was wearing flats and I was freezing. I’ve never dated a man who could pick me up and carry me and I loved how strong he was.

 After our date, a few days later, I really wanted to tell him how I felt. So I texted him, “Can I have the key?” He said “To what?” and then I said “To your heart.” Yes I know, it was kind of corny, but after that we talked about our feelings for each other. I had to break the ice somehow. As soon as we started dating, we had lots of fishing dates and went to church together a lot. There wasn’t a day that we didn’t see each other. My family loved him so much and immediately became best buds with him. I loved it that he loved my little brother, D, who was 3 at the time. He even cooked dinner for me, which was super impressive! He even took care of me when I had my wisdom teeth cut out and I was super sick from the medicine. (I’m not good at dealing with any pain)

We were realizing, as time went on, that we were falling in love like crazy. I knew I wanted to marry him for a while. I prayed a lot and asked God if we were supposed to get married soon. We talked about it from time to time, but I had no idea he had a plan to propose to me. After dating for 3 months, we took a trip to Galveston. We went on the Peninsula and he planned for us to do a photo shoot. So we got dressed up, turned the tripod on an automatic timer, and started doing poses together. Jeffrey would push the button on the camera and then run to where I was. (Right in front of the beach) He said “Hey, how about one on my knee?” I yelled “Sure!” He ran towards me, plopped down on one knee, pulled out the ring, and said “Will you marry me?” It was the sweetest moment ever, just like the movies. We caught the moment on camera, which was perfect.

4 months later after that, we got married at our church with friends and family surrounding us. My grandpa made our cake, his grandma took our photos, my baby brother was the ring bearer, and my grandpa also married us. It was the best day of my life.

I had to learn to cook, clean, and even learn how to write a check. We both had to learn how to live on our own and be independent together. 2 years later, as of this month, we get to celebrate our anniversary! Some people will say that getting married young is wrong, but I disagree; it was the best thing I ever did because I got to marry my soul mate early on. When you realize you want to spend the rest of your life with someone, timing doesn’t matter, only love matters. 

Life Changes Right Before Your Eyes

In one year, my life went from one way to another. My last name, address, drivers license, friends, and even my schedule changed. It was the day I married my soul mate when my life changed. I recommend marriage to everyone because it's a beautiful thing to share your entire life with someone you are in love with. The little things that change don't really matter. I realized it was finally time I learn to cook. It took a while getting used to sleeping somewhere new. I had to learn to manage money and not blow it all. To a girl who loves to shop, this was the hardest. I got used to the fact that I wasn't going to keep the many friends I had in the past few years. It's good for married people with the same goals and aspirations to hang out with other married couples who had the same idea of life in mind.

Marriage is all about giving and putting the other person before yourself. I know it's God's way because it teaches someone a lot about love and sacrifice. It makes you a better person and teaches you to care deeply for someone other than yourself. Appreciation is very important because that simple "thank you" can make someone keep going with a smile on their face and feel it's worth it. When you learn to pray for someone else daily, God loves that. I have learned that in order for a marriage to be happy and everlasting, both spouses must be willing to meet in the middle and love like God intended us to love each other.

"Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.  Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres." 1 Corinthians 13:4-7

My favorite things about marriage are all amazing. I have a caretaker who will always provide a great life for me. I love being able to sleep next to him every night. I have a best friend forever. He listens to me ramble and talk about everything. I get kisses every day and told I'm beautiful. (most women forget if they're not told) I love worshiping with him when we go to church together. I love that I can tell him anything. When I am upset, he is always there to hold me. I love getting hugs from him all day. It's just the best feeling knowing someone will always care for you. I have a hot husband to always see everyday. I don't talk about sex a lot, but I'm very happy I'm married. ;)

Our one year anniversary is coming up in two weeks and I am so happy it's been a year already. I can remember exactly a year ago how much Wedding planning I was doing and how excited I was. I was so nervous on my wedding day because I thought I would fall in my heels walking up to my husband to say "I do". I felt like a princess in my beautiful white dress. My whole family was there and the flowers were so pretty. It will be the day I cherish forever. Now it's been almost a year and I still love him as much as I did as year ago, but more. I've grown to know him more and fall more in love with him. When you get married, your life will change, but it will become more amazing than it ever was!